Our children are suffering as a result of our poor parenting or lack thereof. It appears that parents are trying to be friends with their children rather than their parent. Most kids want boundaries and at an early age they start to test them. If there are no boundaries the kids go out of bound quite often.
As a result of our lack of parenting we force our children down paths that we never dreamed of. One path is the road to prison and the other is the road to an early death. It is the sole responsibility of a parent to nurture and steer their child into adulthood. One thing that parents need to stop doing is trying to raise their children and start rearing their children to be adults.
We are adults longer than we are kids and the more equipped our children are to make the transition the easier it will be for them. It is evident that this is not occurring and one of the reasons so many adult children are still living at home or struggling on their own.
It’s not a surprise that they are in this situation, it was inevitable as a result of them not having the needed life skills that would have prepared them to be self sufficient. Even when parents are great and do what they should there are still some who end up on one of the paths as well. So why not give our children a head start to have a path that is rewarding and fulfilling.
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Thursday, October 8, 2009
ARE PEOPLE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THE NATION'S EDUCATION GAP
I don't think that everyone is uncomfortable because with the gap the status quo can stay the same. The powers that be has no concerns with the reasons for the gap because it helps to enforce their bottomline. We as parents, grandparents and actually the nation should be very concerned and very uncomfortable.
If the gap is allowed to become bigger and the disparity continues to be so obvious then we are in a world of trouble. If educators would accept the fact that they are not seen as strictly educators, but proudly wear the hats that they are dealt and work hand in hand with human service agencies there would be a clearer understanding of what they are dealing with.
When you know what you are dealing with it is easier to address it. Knowing what is happening at home and not judging the child's action alone would give the teacher better leverage in the classroom. I love teachers and I think most of them do a great job. Sometimes their hands are tied and they are not empowered to be what they are needed to be.
School should be a village where all adults there would step up and be a part of the solution and not just get a paycheck. Being involved in a human beings life and particularly a child means giving, accepting, understanding and caring. You have to keep your eye on the prize which will be making a real difference in the life of someone.
"One generation plants the tree, the other gets the shade".
If the gap is allowed to become bigger and the disparity continues to be so obvious then we are in a world of trouble. If educators would accept the fact that they are not seen as strictly educators, but proudly wear the hats that they are dealt and work hand in hand with human service agencies there would be a clearer understanding of what they are dealing with.
When you know what you are dealing with it is easier to address it. Knowing what is happening at home and not judging the child's action alone would give the teacher better leverage in the classroom. I love teachers and I think most of them do a great job. Sometimes their hands are tied and they are not empowered to be what they are needed to be.
School should be a village where all adults there would step up and be a part of the solution and not just get a paycheck. Being involved in a human beings life and particularly a child means giving, accepting, understanding and caring. You have to keep your eye on the prize which will be making a real difference in the life of someone.
"One generation plants the tree, the other gets the shade".
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
IF YOUR HAND IS ALWAYS CLOSED NOTHING GETS IN OR OUT
As I read the list of names of persons who donated to Charities for the year 2008 I was not surprised to see that only a few of the names were those of famous celebrities. The contributors were persons who are mainly unknown to most of us and some requested to not have their names divulged until their death.
These are persons who never get the public accolades that celebrities live for. The public feeds on the pompous attitudes of some famous celebs and continue to support their self serving attitudes. Some, not all of them could care less about the public and even refuse to give autographs or time nor treasure to others. Most of them have the attitude that they are better than most and the public owes them something.
Personally, if those types of celebs depended on me they would be merely a thought when I saw them on TV, movies or anywhere else. People go out of their way to praise, honor, support and kiss up to them. They do nothing but set bad examples for our children, communities and society at large.
Definitely not all of them and this blog is not to suggest that it is. I am merely stating the facts about what is being presented about them in the media (that they love to have highlighted about their lives and accomplishments), only when they want to promote themselves and/or work).
I am not a hater and do respect people who deserve it. Yes, I do put my money where my mouth is. I give back and always have. I am educated and live a middle class lifestyle and support my family, church and community. I am expressing my disappointment in famous people who don't give back and only continue to take and boast about what they have. These people have an obligation to do more because to those that much is given much is required.
The people on the Slate list gave millions of dollars to help people they don't know nor will they probably ever meet. They donated the money to charities of all types.
We need to hold celebs to a higher standard and expect them to do their part. They need to be responsible and care about the content of their art that they are putting out for public consumption to our children who are sponges. NO, it's not their responsibility to be a role model nor is it their place to raise our children but we are aware that most children are not being properly raised and the streets and gangs are taking on that role.
We must use all avenues available to us to reach our children and help our communities. It's not only the rich that have a responsibility it's all of us. The rich and famous has a platform and they should use it for more than filling their pockets. For the most part they give a few dollars and make a couple of appearances and lend their name. What is really needed is to have them do their part and start showing some of the favor that God has shown to them.
These are persons who never get the public accolades that celebrities live for. The public feeds on the pompous attitudes of some famous celebs and continue to support their self serving attitudes. Some, not all of them could care less about the public and even refuse to give autographs or time nor treasure to others. Most of them have the attitude that they are better than most and the public owes them something.
Personally, if those types of celebs depended on me they would be merely a thought when I saw them on TV, movies or anywhere else. People go out of their way to praise, honor, support and kiss up to them. They do nothing but set bad examples for our children, communities and society at large.
Definitely not all of them and this blog is not to suggest that it is. I am merely stating the facts about what is being presented about them in the media (that they love to have highlighted about their lives and accomplishments), only when they want to promote themselves and/or work).
I am not a hater and do respect people who deserve it. Yes, I do put my money where my mouth is. I give back and always have. I am educated and live a middle class lifestyle and support my family, church and community. I am expressing my disappointment in famous people who don't give back and only continue to take and boast about what they have. These people have an obligation to do more because to those that much is given much is required.
The people on the Slate list gave millions of dollars to help people they don't know nor will they probably ever meet. They donated the money to charities of all types.
We need to hold celebs to a higher standard and expect them to do their part. They need to be responsible and care about the content of their art that they are putting out for public consumption to our children who are sponges. NO, it's not their responsibility to be a role model nor is it their place to raise our children but we are aware that most children are not being properly raised and the streets and gangs are taking on that role.
We must use all avenues available to us to reach our children and help our communities. It's not only the rich that have a responsibility it's all of us. The rich and famous has a platform and they should use it for more than filling their pockets. For the most part they give a few dollars and make a couple of appearances and lend their name. What is really needed is to have them do their part and start showing some of the favor that God has shown to them.
What Becomes of Broken Kids When Left To The Broken
Our Child Proctection Services are severely harming our children and has turned into a family abuse warehouse industry to many of the families they are supposed to protect. There are false accusations of child abuse that demean the innocent parent (s), and create harm for the very children the anti-abuse laws were designed to protect.
In most cases a parent is assumed guilty and are made to go through the ringer called the system to prove they are good people. It is not the job of the system to make the parent good they are to help them become safe parents for the kids. The most profound problem with child welfare, is that it is not always about the welfare of the child but rather, the welfare of the Agency.
It is the policy of the department to remove a child from the home due to speculation that a threat exists, when the research shows that removing and placing a child in foster care is always more detrimental to the family unit. Unfortunately, child welfare is not held accountable for the unattributable damage it causes when a child is removed from the home prematurely, unwarranted and placed in an inadequate foster home at best.
Often times the children are worst as a result of their dealings with the Agency than they were at home. If there is a problem with one child and there are other children in the home the department will take them all and put them in foster care. What is that really about? It is merely a numbers game and the children are the stakes being placed.
It is time that we do our part as a community and become the Village for the children.
In most cases a parent is assumed guilty and are made to go through the ringer called the system to prove they are good people. It is not the job of the system to make the parent good they are to help them become safe parents for the kids. The most profound problem with child welfare, is that it is not always about the welfare of the child but rather, the welfare of the Agency.
It is the policy of the department to remove a child from the home due to speculation that a threat exists, when the research shows that removing and placing a child in foster care is always more detrimental to the family unit. Unfortunately, child welfare is not held accountable for the unattributable damage it causes when a child is removed from the home prematurely, unwarranted and placed in an inadequate foster home at best.
Often times the children are worst as a result of their dealings with the Agency than they were at home. If there is a problem with one child and there are other children in the home the department will take them all and put them in foster care. What is that really about? It is merely a numbers game and the children are the stakes being placed.
It is time that we do our part as a community and become the Village for the children.
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
I talk with a lot of women in the course of my day and often times I am befuddled by the way they allow themselves to be treated by the men in their lives. (I am not male bashing just making an observation). Most of the women are forced to accept a lifestyle that is not conducive to their well being. This is due to choices that they've made in their lives that make them feel that they can't do any better.
A lot of the women have settled for an existence rather than a meaningful connection with their man. They don't feel that they deserve better so they accept less by tolerating more.
When a woman allows a man to make her feel in such a way that she cease to be whole and full then that emptiness must be filled in some other way. Sometimes that way is not the best way. It can manifest itself in many forms and often unbeknownst to the woman. She's merely existing and waiting for more of the same.
I employ them to be still, listen, look and really accept the reality of what is and let go. Once they can let go of the feeling that engulfs them to put up or shut up then they can move on healthier, stronger and more powerful than ever.
This reality is being shared more than we would like to admit in more relationships than we could count. It is an epidemic that is crushing hearts and souls of women from all walks of life. It's a feeling of being alone and not loved. We all desire to be loved but when it comes with such a high price as our sanity, children, homes and love of God it is time let go and be free.
Women are so strong and yet so emotionally fragile. We don't want to abandon the husband, white picket fence and 2.5 kids life that was promised to make us complete. So we try to make it fit by any means necessary. But again, I say to what cost?
A lot of the women have settled for an existence rather than a meaningful connection with their man. They don't feel that they deserve better so they accept less by tolerating more.
When a woman allows a man to make her feel in such a way that she cease to be whole and full then that emptiness must be filled in some other way. Sometimes that way is not the best way. It can manifest itself in many forms and often unbeknownst to the woman. She's merely existing and waiting for more of the same.
I employ them to be still, listen, look and really accept the reality of what is and let go. Once they can let go of the feeling that engulfs them to put up or shut up then they can move on healthier, stronger and more powerful than ever.
This reality is being shared more than we would like to admit in more relationships than we could count. It is an epidemic that is crushing hearts and souls of women from all walks of life. It's a feeling of being alone and not loved. We all desire to be loved but when it comes with such a high price as our sanity, children, homes and love of God it is time let go and be free.
Women are so strong and yet so emotionally fragile. We don't want to abandon the husband, white picket fence and 2.5 kids life that was promised to make us complete. So we try to make it fit by any means necessary. But again, I say to what cost?
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